I had a woman express some concern to me recently because she was not pleased about being pregnant. She and her husband wanted more children, just not right now.
They did not wish to terminate the pregnancy, but she was feeling guilty because there was no excitement or enthusiasm as there had been with the first pregnancy.
I have known many women who have shared similar feelings. I have had women who have gone through infertility treatments express mixed feelings when they found out they were really pregnant. It's almost like a feeling of, "Oh, what have I done now?"
If you are experiencing feelings of ambiguity about your pregnancy, you are not alone. An "oops'' pregnancy or unplanned pregnancy is not the same thing as an unwanted pregnancy. I can't begin to estimate the number of babies who were not planned for but are very much wanted and loved.
I would recommend first accepting the feelings. As we sometimes have to remind ourselves, feelings are feelings, they are not right or wrong, they just are. Try to determine if there are any specific things that are contributing to your feelings: finances, work, family life, the price of gasoline.
If you do have specific reasons why now is not a good time, see if there is anything you or others can do to improve the situation. Then remind yourself that you are not having the baby tomorrow. You have time to make some changes if you need to, as well as accept the pregnancy and find joy in it.
Face it, there are some things in life that aren't that great to start with (think of the first time you had sex or ate raw oysters or tried to roller skate) but with time, these experiences can be appreciated and joyful (not so much the raw oysters for me).
Source:
http://www.mayoclinic.com/
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